Love Simplified

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Human beings experience a vast range of emotions, from anger and anxiety to empathy and compassion. However, the most unclear emotion to their mind is the emotion of love. A mix of brain chemicals and bodily hormones generates this emotion, making it so complex to understand.

Due to the complexity of love that humans experience at different levels, it becomes almost impossible for many of them to figure out what love actually is and what its consequences are. As a result, they take some major decisions in life that either bring happiness to them or become burdens over a period of time. Yet, love can be saved and burdens can be avoided! Let’s see how to give it a start.

Understanding the levels

To understand the basics of love, it is important to understand its different levels.

• The most raw form in the love hierarchy is sexual or physical love, which arises due to bodily needs. You can imagine it to be sitting at the base of the love pyramid.

• As a human soul develops and grows, love transforms into more of romantic love, with less of sexual desire in it.

• At the next level, love takes the form of friendship, care, and wanting to fulfill all the needs of lovers and partners. At this level, humans usually want to move into commitment or marriage as they understand the meaning of real love and they want to continue experiencing this emotion. Most humans on earth are currently operating at this level.

• However, it takes much more to climb up the pyramid and experience the emotion of true love. It is also called as the spiritual love or the divine love. For that purpose, a human soul requires to undergo spiritual awakening and transformation that happen by the blessings of God and with the help of divine beings.

• After this level, a human actually rises above the earthly plane and becomes a true soul that can offer eternal love to itself and to another soul at its level. When a soul desires much more than a usual earthly relationship, it is grown to achieve self-love and independence. The soul also gains the knowledge of balancing itself and feeling complete in itself. A balanced soul can easily achieve balance with its partner soul. At this level, two balanced and independent individuals are able to form a healthy and exemplary relationship.

• Post that level, a soul is able to experience compassionate love for the entire humanity and then the divine love for the entire cosmos.

• The ultimate and purest form of love is called devotion that every soul grows to offer to the supreme God. Thus, God reciprocates such devotion with their unimaginable form of love.

How to deal with the challenges of each level

There is only one simple solution to solve the problems that humans face at different levels of love – To Love, Be Loved, and Grow in Love, All Authentically…

Additional Tips: Do not let any negative emotion influence your love. Negativity can kill love, because love is a positive emotion. So, you receive nothing in return. Offer your love unconditionally to all, and avoid keeping any expectations or making any assumptions when it comes to the reciprocation of your love by others. Not everyone can return love or offer it unconditionally. Not everyone wants to do it or is even obligated to do it. We are all separate souls having our own choices, desires, circumstances, and interests to serve in life. No one can control no one! Had love worked so smoothly, it would not be complex.

Love is never owned by ego. If ego has to survive, love must die. Always make healthy choices when it comes to loving self or others. The issues occur when you get stuck at the base or any level of the pyramid and never want to rise up. Challenges and the resulting pains are parts of everyone’s love life, but they need to be resolved so that you don’t refrain from spiritual growth. Thus, keep yourself vulnerable in love. If it brings lessons, then take them and move on. Let go of the wrong lovers amicably, without a feeling of revenge. Forgive them without blame, because sometimes, it may be your fault that you see in them or may be mutual faults. Let go anyways, or you stay stuck with no progress.

Make sure you choose the right partner who is at your level of love and can help you grow. Incompatibility, especially in terms of love needs, can cause an imbalance in any connection, marriage, or partnership. Seek help from wise astrologers, spiritualists, marriage counselors or psychological counselors to learn to bring in compatibility in your relations. Know that love is a very wide domain of knowledge in itself. If you’re not prepared to handle partnerships, do not jump into them or you’ll make yourself and your partner suffer. Never force any relation on yourself. If you’re concerned about progress, it can also be done by self. Remind yourself of self-love at all times; don’t compromise on it, ever. That’s it – love simplified for you!

Reference Resources – For my blog readers who may want to learn more about love at specific levels, I’ve available books authored by me. You may choose the ones that resonate with you. The links are here:

On Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Ruchika-Pahwa/e/B079BBVHZY/ref=aufs_dp_mata_dsk

On my website: https://ruchikapahwa.wixsite.com/author/books

As I write in multiple genres, you should read the book description carefully, before selecting to purchase any of them. From the spiritual growth and love perspective, I personally suggest these books – The Christmas That Brought Love, As Love Can’t be Typed, Rainbow Love, Are YOU Complete?, The Truth of Energies, To the Lord of Compassion, The Truth to Know Before You Tarot It, Bonds & Bondages, Dewdrops, Elemental, Selene, Living Liberation, and Oasis of Peace.

If you have a specific love or life issue to resolve and need help to choose the right book, then just connect to me through my website or social media mentioned thereon. Drop a tweet, or comment here.

May you find the light and peace in love! Enjoy your life, dear folks, until we meet through another blog. 🙂

The Psychology of Books Series – Book Review: Close to The Bone by Lisa Ray

Being a lifelong learner, I hardly create my reading lists. Instead of me needing to choose books, the chosen books reach me in a magical way. ‘Close to the Bone’ is one such book that captured me. If it has reached you too, I suggest not missing reading it at all.

While the words in golden beautify the book cover, the real gold is hidden inside this memoir of Lisa Rani Ray, a popular name in the world of modeling and cinema. It’s her soulful saga that begins with her heartwarming childhood stories and family incidents. There is a lot interesting to read, from carrying a mixed-race legacy with her to the experiences she gained from her time spent with family, relatives and friends in two different countries, India and Poland, where her father and mother respectively belong to.

Lisa has also wonderfully written an account of her life in Calcutta, Canada, New York and London, among other places, and her professional life that ‘accidentally’ started in Bombay. Her inclination to writing and poetry, practicing yoga and meditation, mural painting, and travel and adventure is all mentioned beautifully. From her inner conflicts, failed relationships, bulimia issue and fears in life to her graduation from the deadly disease of multiple myeloma/cancer, she has very honestly penned it all down.

What most appealed and related to me was the storytelling of her deep spiritual adventures and her quest to understand and achieve a balanced life by believing constantly in her positive thoughts and not in the norms and fears that prevail around one’s choices in life. She has shown the courage to rise above societal tags and bound beliefs to spread awareness about issues close to her heart.

Whether it is about undergoing stem cell treatment or attending red carpet events with her shaved head, Lisa, through her life experiences, teaches the world to shed its inhibitions and find the real ‘self’ to manifest what seems impossible.

Although I found the book slightly dragged by the end, it’s actually a page turner, even if it’s not a fiction book. That’s simply because Lisa’s life is so real, yet unreal; so intuitive and random, yet cosmically planned; and so inner-oriented, yet extremely candid. I strongly recommend the memoir to all.

Lead a happy life, reading and growing…:)

On the World Creativity and Innovation Day, Anybody Can Be Creative!

April 21 marked the World Creativity and Innovation Day. For those who could not have imagined that such a day exists, a suggestion is to start being more creative and celebrate the occasion on a positive note. While you may have a truly creative soul like mine, there are many individuals who feel that creativity is a waste of time. Some even criticize those who are creative in nature. A few days back, I created the following for all critics of creativity –

However, I also realized that the actual problem of such individuals is that they cannot think out of the box and get creative ideas. It is obvious for them to become a critic then. This does not mean that they are incapable of generating fresh ideas, but simply that creativity requires a good amount of positive mental energy to come into existence and they may not want to invest that energy. On the other hand, it is important for every individual to know that progress is not made through repeated actions but through innovative ones. If you expect fresh results through the same action every time, then it just stays your expectation. Thus, be real and embrace creativity if you want to excel in any field.

Creativity is not confined to sketching or painting. It spreads to every domain you can imagine. While a shoemaker needs to be creative to design a new type of shoe per emerging customer demands, a social worker also needs to be creative to awaken and convince people about a genuine cause. Being innovative will not only help your mental energies to grow and be active, but it will also benefit your overall health, build positivism and confidence, empower you at personal and professional levels, and offer inner joy. You will work out fresh solutions to problems that remain unsolved through traditional methods or the lack of it.

Here is a great quote that explains the importance of innovation and inspires you to be a creative person today and every day:

“Don’t be satisfied with stories, how things have gone with others. Unfold your own myth.” – Jalaluddin Rumi, The Essential Rumi

It is truly inspirational and motivational to listen to the way others have tackled issues and done something new in life. However, real inspiration and intrinsic motivation will only come from the achievements you make by being creative and carving your own path. Not everyone has the same journey of life. Take an oath to be creative each day and make your journey beautiful and inspirational for the world. Creativity is the best way to justify your existence and purpose in life.

(For those who want to gain some quick tips on being more creative, I have my next post coming in real quick. Keep a watch!)